My heart is beating hard as I sit down to write this. I don’t even know what exactly I am going to say yet! I recently listened to episode #186 of The Lively Show where Jess did a podcast about feeling disconnected from her community because she was holding things back. The podcast was actually a followup to a post she wrote in 2012 on the same topic that sparked a wave of similar posts in the blogging community. Jess’s post had me thinking because I have also felt less connected to you guys.
When I started blogging almost ten years ago I shared everything. Why wouldn’t I? You guys are my friends, and I didn’t see any reason to hide. But the older I’ve gotten, the more the internet has grown, and the more changes that have come and gone, the more I have pulled back. This post is an attempt to put it all out there, and I sure hope I feel relief at the end.
Here are things I am afraid to tell you…
Sometimes I don’t feel like a healthy living blogger anymore because my eating has gotten so normal. Normal in a good way because the focus is off the food and on life. Because I am eating when I’m hungry, enjoying myself when I am out, and generally feeling great. But normal in a less-good way because my diet isn’t as consistently plant-based, I am not eating as many huge-ass salads as I used to, and I definitely am not lighting a candle and putting out a placemat anymore. Some of my meals consist of chips and leftovers eaten standing at the counter. Normal. Obviously the meals you see on KERF are real, but in my professional opinion, I am not eating as healthy as I did five years ago. What I can’t decide is which way is “better.” Eating healthier but being way more aware or eating intuitively but a little less nutritious?
On that note, I have a feeling half of you would say I drink too much and half of you would say I barely drink at all, depending on your normal, but according to health standards and this post, I’m overdoing it. I don’t drink a lot at once, but last year I got in the routine of a glass of wine (or, um, two) almost every night. I am changing this habit though (because it’s a habit, not an addiction), and have already made positive changes this year. It took a week of mocktails (because it’s easier to add than subtract!) to get over the desire for a glass of wine, and now I’m feeling normal again and drinking only on the weekends or nights out. I am planning to do a follow-up post to Practice v. Preach soon.
When Matt and I first broke up, I had to convince myself that I might never get married again or have more children. I gave away or lent out a ton of my baby stuff, and I regret doing that now. At the time I convinced myself that having one precious child was enough, and holding onto my baby gear was making my heart heavy. I now know deep down that I want at least one more child, and I wish I still had all of Mazen’s things tucked safely into the attic. (However, I am happy that my friends have gotten good use out of them!)
Matt and I are on very good terms, and while 2016 was an awkward year, I think we have come out happily on the other side. I am afraid to talk about my new partner because I fear you guys will think anything positive I have to say about him is in direct contrast to Matt, and that is not the case at all. Matt is a wonderful guy, and I don’t regret the time we spent together. I would never say anything bad – directly or indirectly – about him on the internet.
Matt and I both started dating right away because part of the trouble in our marriage was that we felt we had missed out on our 20s. We met when we were 18, the first semester of college, and hadn’t looked back. Aziz Ansari, in his book Modern Romance, calls the stage of life we missed “emerging adulthood.” When we split, I let go of all expectations of finding another husband and just wanted to date around for the fun of it, knowing it could take me years to remarry, if at all. I dove into dating, and it was fun to meet new people! But I wasn’t in the dating pool for the years I had mentally prepared for because I met someone who stopped me in my tracks…
Which brings me to something I’ve been hinting at for months now – I am in looooooove! 
His name is Thomas, and I couldn’t have sketched a better partner if you’d given me a blank piece of paper and a Sharpie and said, “draw the man of your dreams.” While I could list the many reasons why Thomas is a great guy (he is very good looking and an impressive soccer player!), what I love most about him is how he makes me feel when we’re together: safe, secure, respected, loved. He is also crazy about Mazen, and Thomas’s family has been so wonderful and welcoming to Mazen and me.
What you haven’t seen online is that we’ve traveled together, we’ve shared countless fun date nights, and we’ve spent a long time getting to know one another. I didn’t know how or when to share that I had someone new in my life, and I still don’t know if or when he will become a part of the blog.
And lastly, I’m afraid to tell you how often I am covered in dog hair and drool and don’t seem to notice or care : )
Lisa says
Everyone deserves happiness! Enjoy!
Krista says
What a lovely post! Congratulations on being happy and embracing life! Life is too short to miss the party! Happy Friday!
KathEats says
Thanks Krista!
Heather R says
I am beyond happy for you. You are LIVING life. I think it takes awhile to figure out who we are and find our space, it looks like you have done that. Continue living life and being you. Don’t worry about the haters.
Tracey says
Kath, I just wanted to hug you after reading this! I am so happy for you and even if you haven’t shared every detail on the blog, your happiness has definitely radiated through. It has been wonderful to read. 🙂
KathEats says
Thank you Tracey!
Sue says
I’m very happy for you
KathEats says
Thank you Sue <3
emily says
Kath, I am so very happy for you. This is a great post that took a lot of courage to write I am sure!. I really would love to read another baby-centric blog or post series if you choose to do that in the future… Also, as a mom with three, I think you eat very healthy still–I think your meals have become more realistic for this stage in your life and that’s not really a bad thing. You just don’t have as much energy to devote to making sure everything is super precisely balanced all the time on your plates 😉 Thanks for addressing the drinking thing and being honest with everything here. You are practically glowing in the last picture, by the way. Glad you found someone to make you feel that way.
KathEats says
Thanks Emily <3
Holly Watson says
Ive been reading your blog for years and Ive never left a comment before…
I had a whole page typed up but all I want to say is Thank you for sharing.
Youre brave, and fun and I enjoy everything you share with us. The good, the bad and the things that are hard to say, you put yourself out there and I think that’s amazing.
KathEats says
Thanks Holly <3
Laura says
I have never commented before but I have to tell you that I have never loved your writing more or felt more connected and interested in your blog until today. So happy for your happiness!
KathEats says
Thank you <3
Amanda says
I just love, love, love this post! I feel like I know you so much better as your reader and we’re now under the “surface” blog post. So refreshing!
Sarah @ Bucket List Tummy says
Hi kath, I’m so happy for you and so happy to hear you are in love! You deserve it! As a fellow RD, I agree that not all of my meals meet the “healthy” criteria but it’s what I want at the time. I think that’s the realistic “normal” we want to portray!
KathEats says
You are right! Thanks!
Jenna says
YES!
Loved this blog post. It’s so great to see someone share something so honest on the internet.
So great to hear that you’ve met someone new too = )
KathEats says
: )
Alex says
I have been reading your blog for 5+ years but never comment (maybe once). So, from a long-time reader, I am enjoying your blog more than ever these days. It seems real, balanced, and positive, and your happiness is contagious.
KathEats says
Thanks Alex : )
Alana says
You’ve been glowing in your photos for a long time! Happy to read just how happy you are. Thanks for sharing. Have a great weekend!
PS. I’ve been a pet owner all my life. The hair is always a problem so I’ve learned to adjust my wardrobe. While I am drawn to plain black yoga pants…patterns or a heathered color are generally a better choice! 😉 Though, I have a cat so I don’t have the drool! They sure are worth it though, aren’t they?!
KathEats says
Haha but I love black! But black is the worst. I love kitties, but I think one dog is enough animal for me for now : )
Stacey says
I keep a lint roller at home, in my car, and at my desk! but every piece of hair is worth it!! lol
Jessica says
Good for you, Kath! Your honesty and candor was refreshing. Fear helps us grow when it spurs us to take (what are actually quite safe) risks.
KathEats says
Good point!
judy says
As a long time reader I’m so happy for you. And what really is Normal as far as eating?
Congrats on your new relationship. Enjoy it! Stop worrying what all your blog readers
think. It isn’t our place to judge you or anyone. I hope both you and Matt are happy.
KathEats says
Yes, anything I put on the blog will be judged by those who are insecure anyway so I told myself I just need to speak the truth for myself. Thank you!
Sara says
Kath, you’re one of the few people who makes being a mom sound like fun vs a lonely, stressful prison sentence. You’re still yourself!! Many moms I see, all they can talk about is their kid or they are depressed because they’re not their old selves anymore. Sure, it changes you. But it doesn’t have to mean your old self completely dies. You’re an inspiration for those thinking about having kids but worrying about completely losing their sense of self.
I’ve enjoyed your evolution on food because I think you set yourself up, and all the rest of us readers, with a good base of healthy living. Without being mindful in the beginning, you can’t really be intuitive in a healthy way later.
KathEats says
Thank you! I struggle with motherhood at times too, but I think one silver lining of not having another child back to back is that I was able to focus on me and Mazen. I am excited to have another whenever that happens, and I am thankful I’ve had the spacing to really let that excitement build up again.
Sara says
Apologies if you already wrote a post about this, but it would be awesome to hear your thoughts on how you’ve stayed true to yourself and also how you’ve changed. Thanks again for having such an inspiring, fun blog all these years!
Apriori says
Happy is good. 🙂 Normal is good, whatever normal is for you. Embrace it, love life, be you. Also, the dress (blue with colorful print) is absolutely darling, even though only the hem is showing.
KathEats says
Thanks! It’s one-shoulder up top with ruffles. Great for a summer party!
Jenniferr says
Thank you for sharing! I love that you are happy and I appreciate you
KathEats says
I appreciate all of you too <3
Amanda says
I’ll echo the other long-time readers who just want to say you rock, thanks for sharing, and I respect how you’ve become more private on your blog over the years. I see that as a combination of who you are (which is an amazing person…at least from what I read on the blog ;)), how you’ve changed over the years (as we all have…that’s life!), and the dangers of the Internet (which are many…and you’ve handled the trolls with grace). May you have continued happiness! It’s fun when you share your journey with your loyal readers, and it’s understandable when you do no.
KathEats says
Thank you Amanda!
Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog says
You deserve all the happiness in the world! 🙂
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Stacey M. says
Happy to hear you’ve found love again and are enjoying your new life. That’s awesome! I have a quick question for you though … was it ever hard for you and/or Matt post-breakup because of others’ opinions about your split? I just recently got out of an almost 10 year relationship with a guy I was engaged to and I’ve been exposed to some pretty negative people since. I think a lot of them just don’t want to or cannot accept that we weren’t really right for each other and want to place the blame somewhere. Though I have not spoke with him since the breakup, I’ve heard that he’s much happier now. I am as well. So to me, it would seem our split was something that needed to happen. I just wish everyone else could understand that as well. Granted, there are a bunch of details I’m glossing over for privacy reasons, but man 2016 was a tough year for sure!
KathEats says
People will always have opinions, and while no one has said anything mean to my face, I am sure there have been rumors. But I’ve learned that you just have to do what makes you happy, and their opinions are likely reflective of their own insecurity or situation. Those who care about you will be happy for you, so it’s honestly a good way to see who your true friends are.
Stacey M. says
I’m glad you haven’t fallen victim to any direct criticism or negativity. It’s sometimes difficult to keep your head high, at least it is for me being from a very small town. But, I think you’re right. I have found out who my true friends are and while I don’t have as many as I *thought* I had before our separation, I think the small group I have now are going to be with me for life. Everything happens for a reason, at least that’s what I keep telling myself, and I just hope I find love again in my life like you have. <3
KathEats says
Exactly! You WILL find it, but you also have to be confident in your self alone first, which was what I embraced when I went out there. Best of luck!
Emily says
I am a longtime blog reader and have found the last year to be the most refreshing and inspiring content yet. Thanks for sharing a peek into what is bringing you joy these days. Even if you decide to share fewer details and specifics, your joy and peace around how you are living your life shine through. Best wishes!
KathEats says
Thanks Emily!
Jen says
I have been a fan of your blog for years…I think I’ve been reading since 2010. And as a reader who spent a part of everyday reading about your life, I must admit that I definitely noticed a shift in your tone around the time you announced you and Matt were splitting up. You seemed some much lighter and happier. So I am thrilled that you met someone that makes you glow. I didn’t meet my perfect someone until I was 35. Married at 38. Kids at 41 (ugh!). I feel my connection with my better half is so strong because we had a chance to work out stuff out when we were young and to sew all those wild oats. Everyone has their own definition of happiness and I am glad you have found yours. Thank you for sharing!
KathEats says
Thanks for sharing! I had to realize that 34 was young to find love too, and that I had/have more time than i realized. <3
Charise says
This was a big realization for me too – that it’s never too late to start over and find new happiness!
Katie says
lighter. happier. & glowing.. perfectly said.
Kate says
Thanks for sharing. It is great to see where the journey of life has taken you post the end of your marriage. I respect your authenticity and I like the balance of food you show these days and your way of eating- it just seems REAL to me which is the whole purpose of your blog I suppose. Congrats on your happiness 🙂
Sarah D. says
Hi Kath,
I am a long time reader and lurker. You have me grinning from ear to ear over your happiness! It makes my heart full to see a person in love. I’ve seen it written all over your face for a bit now on here and IG. Congrats girl!!
KathEats says
Thanks Sarah! Grinning right now!
Alana says
I am a stepmom to a little girl and I am so grateful every day that she and her dad welcomed me into their lives. I’m sure Thomas feels the same gratitude 🙂 I wish you all the best on what is sometimes a bumpy ride– Otis worth it!
Alana says
It’s worth it…oh, autocorrect ?
KathEats says
<3
Allison k says
I have been reading your blog almost since it’s inception, and this might be my favorite post of all time. I think you handled your split from Matt perfectly, protecting yourself, Matt, and mazen. But this post is amazing. Now that you’ve opened up I look forward to seeing what new (or not) directions you take!
KathEats says
Thanks for reading all these years <3
Allie says
I’ve read your blog for years, and I’m glad you’re in a happy place! I think you’re inspirational for living intuitively, with diet, exercise, your love life, and parenting, instead of following a set of “rules” for life. Thank you for sharing this honest post!
KathEats says
Yeah I don’t like rules haha!
Alex says
Wow! I’ve been reading your blog since around 2009 and I don’t think I’ve ever commented before. I just wanted to say good for you!! I’m sure writing all of that took a lot of guts and I think that’s awesome. Wishing you all much happiness!
KathEats says
Thanks for your comment Alex 😉
Cyndi says
What an excellent post… very honest and so unique. I’ve never read a post by another blogger approaching the private vs public/to share or not share topic in this way. Kudos to you! As people, we continue to evolve and our own personal brand can change as we grow… keep embracing it!
Jeri says
Who are we to judge who makes another person happy! So if you’re happy, I’m happy! Can’t wait to see more of his feet on the blog. Now let’s talk about that dress!!! Details please
KathEats says
Haha I got it on sale at Belk 5 years ago! I wore it to Mazen’s first birthday if you want to see the top 🙂
tini says
congrats! here’s to living your life! fyi, aziz ansari didn’t come up with the “emerging adulthood,” it’s a psychological term.
KathEats says
Gotcha. That was the first time I’d read about it
Nichole says
Great post!
I thought for sure you were going to say you already re married and had a baby on the way. Finding a new love is wonderful.and Congratulations!!
KathEats says
That would be quite the announcement!
Erin says
I have been reading your blog for YEARS. This is one of my favorite posts so far. I am so happy that you have found love again. You and Matt obviously had something very special to be able to be on this side of it in such a beautifully way. Wishing you continued happiness!
KathEats says
Thanks erin!
Tammy says
Thanks for keeping it Real! Get to it, Mazen needs a sibling!!!
KathEats says
Haha!!
Lindsey says
Haha this made me laugh out loud! I bet sweet M would be an amazen’ big brother 🙂
KathEats says
Haha!
Christine says
Long time reader and I hope you’re feeling better about this post. It was wonderful and I’m very excited for you!! I think many people feel the same as you as we’ve all gone through changes from our 20s -30s and as I just turned 40 I’m wondering what the next decade will be like as my 3 & 5 year old with his speech delay. For some people certain things are not a big deal but they are not sharing and or as active on social media so being apprehensive about sharing all is understandable. Your smile tells so much and we’re cheering you on! Can’t wait to see the rest of your adventures this year and thanks for sharing with us.
KathEats says
Thanks and best to you
Priscilla McInnis says
You look incredibly happy and I am so pleased for all of you! Even though we have never met, I feel like I know you and I am just so pleased for you. Enjoy! Thank you for sharing, it made my day bright!
KathEats says
I feel like I know all too! One big collective BFF
Katie says
KATH! I’m so so happy for you!! <3 Oh my goodness, my heart exploded reading this 🙂 This also gives me so much hope for my future with dating while have two little guys! Please continue to share!!! Ps. I still think your blog is "healthy living" because you eat normal & balanced!
KathEats says
Best of luck to you!
Lily says
Think this is one of the best posts you’ve ever written. Hope you feel a bit lighter now! All of your readers are celebrating your happiness at their own little computer screens…I’m smiling for you in Toronto, Canada. Enjoy this new chapter in your life.
KathEats says
Thank you! I can feel all of you guys’ energy vibes right back!
Kelli H says
Yay for being in love! You should never hide that! The dog hair and drool is a normal part of life. 🙂 Your readers are here to support you and if they don’t like what you’re doing then they should keep quiet or stop reading. I think of this as your life journal and we’re privileged to get to peak in.
KathEats says
Thank you – that’s true! Going on 10 years of digital journaling 🙂
Gretchen- Gretchen Leigh Wellness says
It sounds like it’s been a difficult road. I’m so glad to hear you are so happy now though!
Joanna says
Kath,
I have been loving your blog recently and it seems others have felt the same way. Who cares how you classify it? It’s just real life. I think readers are liking the genuine feel and wishing you all the happiness 🙂
Larbs says
It’s just too bad he only has half a body:) As soon as I read this, humble and kind came on the radio – your first description of Thomas to me.
KathEats says
Awww!!!
Kim says
Loooove this post. I don’t comment often, but I’m all about being vulnerable and sharing your story/truth. Congrats on finding new love and happiness. Celebrate that!
KathEats says
Thanks!
Marla says
Have never commented here before but feel compelled to say thanks for keeping it real!
The full honesty is so refreshing and courageous. Your posts are always interesting, but this one was truly engaging and I felt connected. Thank you!
KathEats says
Thanks for your comment!
Emily says
Hi Kath! I’m a longtime reader (and fellow Winthrop RD student!) and I’ve loved following your journey. It’s funny that you mention feeling disconnected from your readers lately, because I felt like I could tell you were holding things back and it was making things forced! I’m so happy you decided to share with us — and so happy for you! No path is linear and it’s so refreshing to read about your new love! Congratulations! I am also really interested in your comment about nutritious vs intuitive eating (and am reading the Intuitive Eating book now). Would love to read more about that journey as you think more about it!
KathEats says
So glad I wrote the post then! And the book is great. I was skeptical at first but have learned to embrace it all
Vicki says
Kath, another long time reader here. I love your recent posts about the squiggly line and enjoying food. For the most part i try to eat healthily but i love to share a good meal with the people i love. Make memories and create experiences.
I’m sooooo pleased you have found Thomas and you are happy. Life is too short to be miserable. Big hug for you and Mazen from a reader you’ll probably never meet but who wishes you the best x
KathEats says
Xo
Linda says
This post just gives me chills. Cheers to happiness and enjoying all the good things life has to offer!!!
Clare @ fitting it all in says
SO SO happy to hear all of this!
And I also struggle with the eating less nutritiously but more intuitively thing…this way is sure EASIER:)
KathEats says
Exactly!!
kate says
kath! you seem so happy (and real) in this post! I have kept up with you since your charlotte days, and it’s nice to read this like I’m reading an email from a friend (the best kind of blog posts are that way!) xo
KathEats says
I agree! Thank you!
Amy says
Kath- Thank you so much for sharing! I’m in a blended family as well, so (selfishly) I’m excited at the potential to see one of my favorite bloggers have a family that looks like mine! Even though there are a lot of blended families out there, not many of them are represented in the blogging community.
I’ve read your blog for probably 7 or 8 years now, and in that time I’ve gone from a 20-something single reading about a young married couple to watching you start having kids as I met and married my husband. Four and a half years into our marriage my relationship with my stepdaughter is such a blessing, and we welcomed our first baby in 2016, just as you were announcing your split with Matt. We’ve kind of traded places in some ways! Here’s what I’ve learned- divorce SUCKS. It always will in some ways, most of all for the kids. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. But my life is also a testament to how God can take brokenness and make it beautiful. I would never in a moment pick another man, a different story, or wish things were different from what I’ve been blessed with. I’m so excited to see what the future holds for you and Mazen, and I’m so grateful you chose to “put yourself out there” and share with all of us!
KathEats says
Thanks for sharing your story. There is always hope for goodness 🙂
mallory says
Another long-time reader here! To be honest, I thought you were going to announce something a bit more juicy 😉 haha! To be honest, none of what you wrote is really a surprise. It was pretty evident you had been spending time with someone, traveling with them, etc and also in love! It was also pretty apparent that you’ve become a lot ‘looser’ in terms of your eating habits (and I don’t mean that in a bad way!). Food is not your whole world anymore, like it was 7 years ago and that is a good thing. You still eat whole, healthy foods. I, too, plan to really cut back on the glass (or 2) of wine I have during the week.
Happy to see you happy.
KathEats says
Yeah I knew some of you would expect more juicy things but this was still hard for me to share in some ways 🙂
mallory says
We all appreciate you sharing 🙂
Danielle says
Kath, I rarely comment but just want to say that I know this took courage and I’m very, very happy for you. Good for you. You deserve happiness.
KathEats says
Thank you!
Jennifer says
Love it!!! Thanks for opening up. You are keeping it REAL which is wonderful. I”m happy to see you are happy!
Andrea says
The headless pictures are such a tease hah!! But I’m
So glad you’re sharing! It is good to hear since I kind of feel like an internet friend as a reader 🙂 and because it’s always good to know the people I like at happy! It can be tough to talk about change especially with love lives but I think you’ve done it gracefully and maturely. Also:re food, I love reading and seeing your food and it has definitely encouraged me to eat more mindfully, which is healthy. I also get inspiration from seeing some easy ways to use leftovers or make easy meals.
Andrea says
Aw some of my emojis didn’t come out so excuse the typos.
KathEats says
Fixed ’em for ya : )
KathEats says
Thank you!!
Katie says
A happy, fun, balanced life sounds pretty “healthy” to me!!
Carrie says
Kath, your blog is part of my daily routine – I love the variety of your posts but this one was special! Thank you for sharing and like all the others, so thrilled to see you happy and in looooove! Your lifestyle is very relatable and inspiring – you eat well, exercise often and enjoy your life – love it!!!
KathEats says
Thanks Carrie!
Karlee says
Kath- I’m so happy to read this post; you’ve been a part of my day for quite some time and I could sense your happiness in the last months. Thank you for being so real and true to yourself, it inspires me. I have to admit I did feel a disconnect earlier last year, it’s so great to have you back!!
We have so many similarities (strangest would be we both started with Matts and then fell head over heels for Thomas’s) I value our “friendship” in this space and am so happy to know that you’re happy.
Cheers to a wonderful 2017!
KathEats says
Haha that’s so funny about the names!!
Cathy says
Kath your post was very sweet. Thomas is lucky. Your blog lately has been inspiring. I have reunited with my 1st love after 40 years. Best of luck to you in 2017.
KathEats says
Oh wow – 40 years! So exciting. Congrats.
Emily says
I’m so happy to read this! You have handled this in such a fantastic way, I only wish you the best!
KathEats says
xo
Sarah says
This is so beautifully candid. Thank you for sharing your life with us Kath, I have been a faithful reader for many years now and look forward to reading all the new exciting things in your life.(even if I’m not the greatest at commenting!)
KathEats says
Thanks Sarah!
Kathy says
Kath, I have a very similar story and my first marriage ended at 28, so I can totally relate! I’m so glad you found love again. Congrats!
KathEats says
: )
Elisabeth says
I so agree with all of the other commenters – very happy to read this post! Congratulations on finding love again and being in such a happy place in your life. It fully translates to your posts these days 🙂
Diana says
This post put a smile on my face! 🙂 I’m a longtime reader and want to echo the comments of many who said they still enjoy your blog after all these years (and maybe even more so now!) Thank you for sharing your life with us and being so brave!
xo,
Diana
KathEats says
xo back to ya
Nicolette says
One of the things that attracts me to your blog Kath, is your REALNESS. I truly believe that healthy eating MUST consist of balance in pleasure, ease, and enjoyment along side of “healthy food choices”. There is so much army drilling of eating “clean” and “whole” and this-free and that-free, etc. that people are really missing out on life itself and absolutely killing their mental/emotional health all in the name of physical health (that in my experience doesn’t improve with a “perfect diet”.) Sure, we all know that the body requires many nutrients, and that the most dense source of these come from whole foods, but we really don’t need to avoid the other stuff to be healthy (unless one has a specific medical condition like chron’s or whatnot). I LOVE that you are enjoying life and would love for you to continue to blog about life as it is, not as the health and diet police want to see it as. I really do feel like so many of the “healthy living” blogs out there are as bad as some of those ultra photo-shopped models in magazines. I would LOVE to see you write freely about your day to day, just the way it is! Cheers to freedom and happiness.
KathEats says
So very true!
Charise says
Your happiness is really coming through in this post! I love love! I hear ya on the being worried people will think you are comparing Thomas to Matt. I ran into the same thing – I found my current partner much sooner than I thought I would into re-entering the dating world last year for the first time since college. And I was worried that people would think me saying great things about him meant it was so much better than with my ex – not better, just different! Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses since we’re all human.
Anyway, really, just YAY!
(And regarding intuitive eating vs being a bit healthier, I say this way is better – I’d rather enjoy life more and carry a few extra lbs than be constantly thinking about what I’m eating, especially when you know your overall “healthstyle” is pretty good!).
KathEats says
It is so comforting to me to hear other people who went through experiences similar to mine, so thanks for sharing yours!
Jennifer Valdes says
That’s really interesting about the “emerging adulthood”. I got married when I was 21 and had a son. That marriage ended 10 years later. I ended up remarried two years later and just celebrated our 16th anniversary. 🙂 Never throw in the towel or think you won’t fall in love again. 🙂 We have three wonderful children, too.
You seem very happy and I’m glad that everything is working out the way it is.
KathEats says
Thanks for sharing your story – always comforting to hear others have found love again!
Emily says
I’ve also never commented before, but I’ve loved your blog for a lot of years and loved this post.
KathEats says
Thanks Emily!
Rebecca says
I have been following your blog for five years now and I thoroughly enjoy it. Congrats on the relationship and finding so much love and happiness again!
KathEats says
Thanks!
Rheagan @ Hardly Awesome says
Amazing post…enjoyable and honest. I was a very early fan of yours (years and years ago…hard to believe it has been so long!). I quit reading after the Smuckers jam thing…so silly in retrospect. A friend linked me to this post and said it was refreshing and bold, and I agree! I think I am a loyal reader once again. Thank you!
KathEats says
Glad you’re back : )
Amanda says
I’ve been thinking a lot about labels lately and how they make OTHERS feel more comfortable. Personally, I hate them – they might make others more comfortable but they make me very uncomfortable. Take the concept of Healthy Living Blogger. Is it so necessary to define what kind of a blogger you are? It might make sense if you’re talking to potential advertisers, but even then I still think they’re wanting to advertise on your site because of the content you put out – not because of the label you give yourself. Speaking of which, though, I would still label you a Healthy Living Blogger (if I have to label you at all), maybe even moreso than I did before specifically because my very idea of “healthy” is “balance.” I have more in common with the woman whose diet isn’t perfect, who has some wine now and then, who goes on dates, etc. and who doesn’t focus or fuss too much about what’s on her plate. I know eating healthy makes you feel healthy and blah blah blah, but I want to know that it’s possible to do all that while having other priorities.
As for the amount you drink? No judgment from me. Honestly I love getting wine recommendations from you every now and then but if you decide not to drink I’m still going to read – do you, girl. And the new partner? Good for you, and good for Mazen. I hope you’re very happy. And I hope Matt is happy too, because he does sound like a good guy. But it’s your life. People are always going to judge you because that’s the nature of life and it’s DEFINITELY the nature of the internet, but the only people who know what happened between you and Matt are you and Matt, and the only person who knows how you feel is you. I think – share as much or as little of your life as you want. People will either keep coming back or they won’t – you’ll lose readers but you’ll pick up different ones. It might be hard not to take it personally but it’s not personal – people go where they need to go for what THEY need at any particular time.
I’m glad you shared.
KathEats says
#truth!
Beth says
This post made me so happy. I hope you share more but I completely understand how you are feeling having come out the other end of a rough year myself. I’d love to hear your thoughts on my latest post: https://pieceofbeth.com/2016/12/27/divorce-survival-what-worked-and-didnt-work-for-me-in-2016/
KathEats says
I will check it out : )
Alison @ Daily Moves and Grooves says
Vulnerability is such a beautiful thing, Kath. Thank you for sharing these things, because I know that a lot of us can relate and find comfort in knowing that we’re not the only ones who “fall of the healthy bandwagon” or have uncertainties about our love lives. I’m so happy for you! <3
KathEats says
Thanks Alison!
Jeri says
Kath, I’m happy you’re happy!
I started reading because of the food, sure, but it quickly became about something else – you! You seem like an awesome person, I dig your style, I like the philosophies you share with us. I came for the food, but I stayed for you. Keep on doing you! Thank you for sharing with us.
KathEats says
Thank you Jeri <3
Kim says
Hi Kath! I have been reading your blog off and on over the years. I rarely comment but I just had to today since I went through a similar situation a few years ago. I got divorced and spent a while having to get used to being alone and used to the fact that it might be a while before I would find someone else to start a family with. My previous husband and I hadn’t had any kids but I knew I wanted kids in the future and was nearing 30 so my internal clock was ticking. I convinced myself to spend time enjoying dating around and having fun! I had been with my husband for almost 10 years and missed out on all of the fun dating and going out during my twenties too! I was determined to have fun for a few years and not settle down or “settle” for someone else too soon.. I had no idea that I would meet someone again so soon that I liked so much…I guess a lot of time spent by yourself reflecting teaches you new things about yourself, who you really are, and what type is a good match for you. I never thought I would get remarried again so soon either! But here I am, married again just a couple years after the divorce and we are expecting our first child in April and I couldn’t be happier! I too was nervous to share my feelings with people for a long time, but when you have everything out in the open you feel better and people can better relate to you and develop more meaningful relationships with you too. In all reality, I should have gotten divorced years before I did. My husband, like Matt, was and is a good guy and we are still on good terms. It just took me a really long time to come to the conclusion that we weren’t meant to be together (something that I knew in my gut for a while) and I had to let go of the perfect marriage and perfect life image that I thought people had of me ( I guess I just didn’t want to disappoint people???)… I hope this makes sense… anyways, I am so happy for you and it feels so good to read about your experiences with dating, life and love!
KathEats says
I could have written this myself <3
Tina says
Hi Kath,
I’m a long time reader but rarely comment and just want to say what a great (and brave!) post this was! Life is too short and everyone deserves happiness. Congratulations!
Cheers!
KathEats says
Thanks Tina!
SPC says
This post is so, so wonderful! Like everyone else here, I am a long time reader that has, in a lot of ways, grown up reading your blog (started reading in grad school- am now married and in my career). I think a lot of us spend our early twenties trying to be the people we think we should be or are supposed to be. But it’s when we start living the lives that we want and doing the things that bring us joy, that we are able to be the best, happiest versions of ourselves. It’s been so inspiring to follow your journey, and I look forward to the next chapters! And for what it’s worth, I’ve never wanted to be your real life friend as much as I do now.
KathEats says
Aw thanks : )
Angela says
Beautiful post, Kath. What I love about your blog is the authenticity. You do post your meals, your drinks, your normal goings-on, and you are aware that often there will be some blowback by someone who thinks you are doing something or everything wrong; yet, you still let that person (or people) into your life via your blog and you continue to be authentic. That is a strength that many people don’t understand or recognize, but for those of us that have read your blog for YEARS, we can see it.
and separately- I have to say I love the blog re-design, the colors are perfect. I love the mostly black and white with pop of soft color.
and best wishes on the new love in your life.
KathEats says
Thank you all around!
Stacey says
I absolutely love your blog and LOVE this post. I think all of us of course want to respect your privacy, but with blogging you put it all out there and let people in on your life. I love the way your blog has evolved, which is why I keep coming back for me. I think everyone has wanted to know who your mysterious partner is, and this was the perfect introduction. It’s obvious how happy you are! I think everyone is excited and rooting for you.
Lindsay says
Congratulations on finding happiness. I have been following you for at least five years and I am so happy for you! You have handled yourself gracefully. Bravo.
KathEats says
Thank you : )
Jac says
Kath, so so happy to see this and know how well you are doing…. the evolution of your romantic life, food focus… it is all amazing. amazing in the sense that you are authentic and true to yourself first… and it works! you are probably a better mother/partner/daughter and friend because of it! sure hope you feel great after posting this and reading the encouraging comments xo
KathEats says
I hope so! Always a work in progress, this life of ours : )
Kat says
We all deserve happiness, and I’m so glad you found someone awesome!
Ali says
My favorite part of reading your blog over the years hasn’t been the meals (though they are definitely a close second..!). It has been the tidbits and posts dedicated to your life – the good and bad, up and down, struggles and triumphs. I know that I have been so eager to hear about how you are navigating this new chapter of your life and truly admire how you’ve done thus far. There is so much conflict in SO many aspects of the world right now…hearing about how you are keeping it real AND positive has been deeply inspiring and comforting to me. I wish you so much happiness and am excited to see how you continue to grow as a person. Cheers to you, Kath! XO
KathEats says
Thanks Ali!
Silvia @ living life says
Hi Kath, I can imagine it is terribly hard to put someone else out there, in front of a very large following on the internet, something that is very private to you, for now. There will be a gasp, then there will be comments, and today there is so much negativity, just because some people are envious of your success in the first place. I’d be reluctant to share, too.
I can completely understand that you keep it to yourself. You have every right to. Of course, if it becomes too much effort, to literally clip the person out of your blog posts, that is another story 😉
It will feel right and obvious at some time when to share. I bet you have shown him us already, in some of your soccer group picts 🙂
In any case, all of our lives meander in unpredictable ways for which we are not entirely responsible. Part of the fun is to share the adventure, with hopes for the future, but without guarantees, and to have other root for us.
I am glad you found love again. He seems like a really nice guy.
KathEats says
Yes, just listening to my gut. I doubt he will ever have a main presence here, but I would like to share him a little as we move forward in our lives 🙂
Karen says
Hey Kath! It’s Karen from Canada haa though we only met once and shared a few emails back and forth. WE did discuss future life paths and plans and both of us discusssed next babies etc. I still only have Lauren as my body had other plans for me and life had other plans for you. I do believe we are on the path that we should be on and that we will have our happily ever after. I am thrilled about your new man and happy you have found love again. You truly deserve it !
KathEats says
Hello again Karen! xo
Jenny says
So glad you are happy! Sometimes happiness finds us when we are least expecting it!
KathEats says
Very true. A lot of The Lively Show content about alignment and law of attraction has my brain thinking about all of this!
Sana says
This is one of the best blog posts I’ve read in a while. It’s real and raw all while keeping the things that are special to you sacred. It’s good to see you happy and glowing!
KathEats says
Thanks!
Sophie says
Your guy has some really nice feet, LOL!
KathEats says
Haha. you should see them without shoes!! 😉
Amy says
Congrats! Shout it from the rooftops…some people don’t find love once in a lifetime, but you, lucky girl, have found it twice. You deserve happiness no matter what Internet trolls might say!
KathEats says
Haha love it!
Amanda says
This was a delightful post to read. I like that you just keep it real…with all your posts. I’ve never understood why people judge or critique in blog comments. I think it must be because they’re not okay with themselves or they have too much spare time. 😉
What you choose to share is your business.
I find the snippets and photos of your life refreshing and honest. I like seeing what others eat and the more “real” and “normal” the better, I say. I try to live my life with balance and I truly embrace your squiggly line effect on all things.
I love hearing that people are in love too. So congrats!!
sarah says
Awesome. All of it. And, as far as the little changes in diet/alcohol/lifestyle…as I fellow dietitian, mom, and gal your age, your thoughts mirror mine. I had this random thought today: “At 34 years old, I feel like I finally know my body.” I know what I’m craving, I know when I want potato chips vs. kale chips, when I feel like exercising or taking a week off, and I know I do enjoy my glass of wine routine. But, as we’ve both likely seen, things change over the weeks, months, and years. Who knows what will be happening in your life, health in a few months. Thanks for sharing. You look incredibly happy and that’s the most important thing right now.
KathEats says
Yes to everything you said! Especially potato chips v kale chips : )
Brooke says
I don’t usually comment on blogs but I just felt like I needed too after reading this post.
This post was so refreshing and honest. I totally understand that putting everything out there on the internet is scary and somewhat invasive but hearing some honest talk really makes me feel like “I know you better”. It just makes you seem like a real person rather than a person behind a highly manicured blog post. I really appreciate you putting all this info about yourself out there, that takes some serious courage! Bloggers that really let you into their lives are always the ones I want to read most. When I read blogs, I am not looking to judge the bloggers life or habits, I am looking for commonality and inspiration and in this post I found that.
Thanks!
KathEats says
I agree with you – those are the blogs I enjoy reading myself, so I knew I wanted to get back to that place.
Kelly says
This might just be my favorite post from you. Life isn’t perfect, and it’s silly for any reader to think that someone else’s life blogged on the Internet would be perfect. I think it’s fantastic that you are happy and were able to move on from your marriage in a positive and healthy way. I also think your eating and drinking habits reflect an emotional/mental happiness and well-being, which is 95% of good health, in my opinion! Feel free to share more with us…it’s encouraging. Everything is going to be OKAY. 🙂
KathEats says
: )
Bethany says
I love that you are so happy. It shows in your posts. I love that you want another baby someday, your a great mom and adding in another little human is amazing. I love the way you eat these days, because i can better relate, also being a mom of one little boy. And i really love that your in love. I love that your beginning to introduce us to Thomas and his pup! He sounds amazing and i’m glad your beginning to share. I think most of your blog readers just want to be included in day to day life, which obviously includes Thomas a whole lot now. I am amazed at how respectful you and Matt are towards one another and to speak for myself, i’ll never judge your feelings toward Thomas as a direct/indirect contrast to Matt. I’m just so happy for you and and hope you share more about him and your “new” life, when you feel the time is right <3 <3
KathEats says
Thank you <3
Elizabeth says
Thanks for sharing! It couldn’t have been easy.
I’m so happy that you found someone who is a great fit for you and Mazen, while remaining on good terms with Matt.
I think you are on to something regarding couples who are together or married before experiencing some of their 20s as a single person. We know a number of couples who met in high school or early in college and got married…only to have one or both of them be unhappy later and feeling like they “missed out” on part of becoming an adult. When my husband and I met, I was 25 and he was 27. We both had had 2-3 long term relationships and had done plenty of dating. We both comment now how glad we were to have met when we did, as we felt confident that we knew “what was all out there” and that we were content with who we had chosen to spend the rest of our lives with.
Best wishes to you and Thomas!
KathEats says
It makes sense when you think about it – we grow so much in our 20s.
Paula says
I read your blog everyday with breakfast. It’s the only blog I commit to daily. I love it even more after your honesty today. Balance, moderation, practice not perfect! Continue to be you!
KathEats says
Thanks Paula!
Wendyr says
Congratulations! This is wonderful news. It is so inspiring that you and Matt have maintained a good relationship after splitting and that you have found happiness!
Jen T says
Hi Kath.
I loved reading this – it gives me a lot of hope for my own future. Other commenters have already beautifully stated my thoughts. Your happiness is so lovely and apparent. I’m sure you already know this, but you’ve helped me more than I can fully express. Thank you doesn’t seem adequate. But – thank you.
Jen T
KathEats says
I’m so glad to hear that <3
Kim says
Hi Kath,
I have read since the beginning. You had only been blogging three months, and Food Blogs were totally new!
I am about the same age as you and was one of those people who didn’t get married until my 30s so in the beginning, although I loved your blog, I didn’t feel we had much in common. I used to think doesn’t she ever get takeout or go out with friends for drinks?!?!
These past few years even since you’ve had Mazen I have felt your life is so much more relatable to me and once again I can’t wait to check in and see what you’ve been up too!
My point is you never know who you’re going to relate to or how, or who will be touched by your story. It is wonderful that you have chosen to share more with us and I thank you for that.
KathEats says
🙂 Thanks Kim!
Kimberly says
Out of the dozens of nutrition blogs that I follow, I can truly say your page is not just only a “favorite” but I feel the most connected too….simply because of posts like this. Your raw honesty, realism, and perfect timing with when and how much to share is respectable.
As a fellow Dietitian, I’d much rather read your “normal” blog, because I relate to it more. I feel like there’s lots of inner-competition among women, especially dietitians, that seeing someones perfectly portioned, impeccably photographed superfood salad every day can get exhausting and cause me to doubt myself when I know deep down that I eat perfectly healthy for me. But hey, that’s just me!
KathEats says
Agreed!! xo
Michelle says
Amazingly honest post and thank you fir sharing. I wanted to say that it was painful to talk to my own parents and in laws about food for years because we are primarily vegan and made that decision based on years of reading about the detriments of animal based foods in the typical modern diet. We never would normally want to interject our opinion to make anyone feel bad, but the more research that comes out the more there is no denying that animal consumed on a daily basis promotes cancer cell growth and inflammatory disease. If you have genetic history of these things it makes it even more risky.
This is so hard because animal and processed foods are normal these dats for so many, but I think it ishealthy to be honest with yourself and people you love as eating plant based is undoubtedly a great way to live longer on the whole for society. The amount of resources it takes to cultivate animal foods is staggering and the real issue when it comes to our earth being depleted.
This comment is meant to encourage whoever readsit to delve deeper into food and how healing and healthy it can truly be for your body if you are plant based.
Heather L. says
Congratulations! Moving forward after a split is hard and it does feel like everything you say about a new partner is a slight to your old partner. You are lucky that your split is friendly, especially for your son. My ex-husband and I have worked hard to keep a good, friendly relationship moving forward. I am not dating currently, but I am happy that he has found someone that makes him happy. It’s weird, and sometimes I feel awkward about it, but we are both in a better place. Don’t be afraid. Be fearlessly happy and only share what’s comfortable for you.
KathEats says
: )
Amanda says
Hey Kath! Loved this post, I have been an on and off reader since omg 2009?! I’ve been back on for the past few months and have enjoyed your posts. I am so glad you have found a new love and wish you all the best.
KathEats says
Thanks and I’m glad you’re back!
Michelle says
I’ve never commented before but I’ve been reading for years; since I was pregnant with my first, just a few months behind you with Mazen. I just wanted to say that this post sounds like the real Kath, which is funny since I don’t know you IRL. But even though your happiness has been shining through, something was missing, and this post put its back in. I really appreciate your courage to put your life out there, and please know reading your blog has helped me eat healthier, found great gifts/ideas and books for my son (now sons), and is a daily joy. Also, maybe you could do a post about your counter meals of chips etc., because I would love to see that “normal” occasionally. Thanks again and congrats on happiness!
KathEats says
Thank you! And I will try to put a “standing at the counter” meal on Instagram soon : )
Kath says
Kath!! Thank you so much for sharing! I’ve been following your blog for years and love the daily snippets into your life. My favourite posts are these juicy ones =) I went through a very similar experience, met my ex in second year uni, and we recently separated. It’s so great to see you IN LOVE and letting go in life. I’m so happy for you!! Your happiness shines through the blog. Re wine every night, i am so right with you! I love to substitute kombucha during the weeknights. Re food, I think your current eating style is super healthy – nutritionally but also mentally! Intuitive eating is the ultimate healthy eating/living goal. All the best and thanks for sharing!!
KathEats says
Thanks and best to you in finding love!
Connie says
love it. love all of it. love that you’re in looooooove! such a wonderful feeling. i think it takes a lot of courage to write about your life and you do a wonderful job of it. i hope the haters don’t get you down (ugh some of the comments i’ve read makes my heart hurt for you. what’s wrong with people??!). and i would love it if you got pregnant again, those were some of my favorite posts!!
thanks for sharing!
Tara says
Thank you for sharing all of this!! I could relate to just about everything!!
Could you write a follow up post on dating post marriage. That is, how did you go about meeting people? I have been separated for 3 years and still haven’t managed to enter the dating pool. I’m super nervous about it and online dating intimidates me.
So nice to see you so happy 🙂
KathEats says
Maaaayyybeeee : )
Annie says
I absolutely love this blog. I have followed you since day one, through your dieting, my disordered eating, weddings and babies. I have truly come to a place in my life where “normal” eating habits are now routine and feel good physically and mentally and I love seeing bloggers share this as well. Could we be healthier with our choices, sometimes yes, but i truly find that I am a healthier and happier person generally and feel you are too!
Also glad to see you happy where you are in life and your new relationship and that your comfortable enough to share now!
KathEats says
Thanks for reading all these years!
Dawn says
Kath I am so happy for you! I’ve been reading your blog going on 8 years (I think) and its great you’re happy and healthy!
KathEats says
8 years! Thanks for sticking with me 🙂
Brie says
Reader since 2011 – thanks for keeping it real
KathEats says
Thank you for sticking with me!
Eileen says
This is a very nice post! It makes me feel sad that you say that you were afraid to write these things. Of course, in our current climate, I get it — everyone has an opinion! But no one should begrudge you happiness, and it sounds like you are all doing a great job together. (Also, Thomas is cute from the neck down, LOL!)
KathEats says
Haha!! : )
Laurie says
Thank you for sharing this post, Kath! I have been reading and enjoying your blog for years. Life takes so many twists and turns (I wish my twists and turns had had a calorie count) and they can be hard yet oh so rewarding. I’m happy you are happy and can’t wait to read and see more of the Kath-enings. 🙂
KathEats says
Kath-enings! Haha!
Jennifer says
Long time loyal reader here! I never comment however, but this is by far my favorite post. I think you may have changed but you are still doing something right! I love to see you so happy. You are an inspiration to so many. I have never met you, but you are actually the reason I was able to quit smoking. Keep it up Kath. You keep me motivated.
KathEats says
Wow, I am humbled to hear that! Congratulations on accomplishing something that is not easy!
Jessica says
I am so happy for you, Kath! Honestly, I have truly enjoyed your blog more lately than I have in a while (not trying to be insulting); the honesty and real life is refreshing. Wishing you all nothing but happiness.
KathEats says
I get it! Thank you!
Randy says
One of the best posts you have ever done Kath!
Congratulations….everyone has a right to be happy.
A picture of you and your love together would be nice to see so we can know who you are talking about.
Please keep writing more like this post, you are an amazing woman Kath.
Randy.
KathEats says
Thanks Randy. All in good time : )
Lena says
Beautiful honesty
Sandra says
Congrats on finding your new happiness!
KathEats says
Thanks Sandra!
Erin says
I’ve been reading since 2008 but rarely comment. This gave me chills because of your honesty and sincere happiness!!! How wonderful for you and Mazen! Your strength inside and out continues to impress me! Yay love! 🙂
KathEats says
Thanks Erin!
Rita says
So happy that you have found your happy place, everyone deserves that
KathEats says
Thank you 🙂
Danielle says
Congrats! I do truly think you are glowing now! I’ve thought a lot about relationships that begin in late teens/early 20s as I started dating my SO at 19 and we’re still happily together 13 years later! I think you really have to grow individually as well as grow together, which is very hard to do at that time period since just so much is changing. And, of course, every relationship is different and what works for one may not work for another 🙂 I am glad to see you officially share this on the blog though! I’ve been a looong time reader and, while you shared that you had a new “friend”, there was obviously a lot that was not shared too (though I completely understand why!) and so it made it seem like there was a big part of your life being held back.
Steph says
So happy, happy for you!! I think everything you just listed IS real, even if your eating isn’t as wholesome as it once was. And, frankly, that’s more real than living a life of textbook healthy eating, relationships, etc. I feel inspired by your REAL life…thank you for sharing it! And congrats on all of the good things you’ve got going right now!
KathEats says
Thank you!
Kelly says
Aww! So happy for you! Enjoy it! Life is so short!
Tina says
Yay! I’m glad that you’re so happy right now, and I’m glad you decided to make this post. Life is complicated and not always so perfect, but you should never feel afraid to share anything here – were all real people too! I’m sure many of us are here as loyal readers no matter who you’re dating, what you’re eating, or how much you’re drinking. It’s your life – enjoy it! :))
KathEats says
All of your comments today have reassured me you guys are here for support and encouragement. Thank you all!
Maren says
Love this post! I Instagram messaged you that waiting until the 20th would be too long to read this, so I’m glad you shared early. Happy to hear you’re happy. I actually started reading this blog because of your pregnancy blog (I was pregnant the same time as you), so I really don’t read because of the health content so much. Thank you for your candor!
KathEats says
I moved it up just for you!! 😉
Masha says
I am a long time reader and really loved this post! Curious – have Matt and Thomas met? Does Matt have a serious girlfriend? Lots of love and happiness to you and Thomas for many years to come:)
KathEats says
They have met more than once and are “cool” 🙂
Sandra says
This post gave me the chills in a good way, it’s so great to read that you are happy.
Jess says
As a fellow dietitian mama – dude, I hear you! I’m still getting into the groove of figuring out how to work and parent and life and then meal planning is almost another job (in least the way I used to do it!) I’ve have to adapt and change in ways I never expected but it’s been good for my mental health anyway (like eating intuitively). I’m so happy for you and Mazen – that you have an amazing partner in life and now Mazen has even one more person to love him 🙂 Congrats!!!
KathEats says
Thank you!
Liz says
I actually think the meals you share now are more helpful and inspiring than ever, precisely because they are less “planned.” I have used Cook Smarts for years now, and seeing you repurpose the leftovers of those meals in creative ways has made it easier for me to put together a healthy lunch fast while also trying to feed my toddler.
On another note, if the dog hair hasn’t gotten to you yet, it will. I love my yellow lab but good Lord the hair is never ending. When it does get ridiculous, go to Costco and get yourself a Roomba. Sanity saver for sure!
Liz says
Oops, my happy face emoji seems to have turned into a question mark, lol!
KathEats says
I am just waiting for the day when WordPress understands emojis! Want to use them all.the.time!
KathEats says
So glad to hear it. And yes, I hear Roombas are key!
Nicole says
This resonated with me. Your blog fit my interests when I first started reading in my mid twenties, and now it fits my (different) interests that I’m in my early thirties. I think that’s natural.
Coco says
I’m sooooo happy for you Kath!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m remarried now for over a year, and truly happy despite that my ex-husband is a great man.
Looking forward to read more about Thomas.. I think I already like him 😉
Kamila says
I think I like him too! ahaha 🙂
Jacklyn says
Wow, such a brave and empowering post Kath! I am so thankful for your transparency about how your eating has evolved over time and I LOVE having the type of “normal” influence you bring to the blog world amidst all of the “100% healthy” bloggers out there. I also really respect that you have left your readers with a positive impression of Matt and am so happy for how things have turned out for you. Thanks for giving us a peak of the journey xo
KathEats says
Thanks!!
Tonya says
WHOOOOO! BEST. POST. HANDS. DOWN, MAMA!
KathEats says
Haha!! 🙂
Evelyne says
I love this so much!!
Mandy says
When I read the title of this post, I was afraid that one of the things was that you were quitting your blog! I’m so happy that was not one of the pieces of news, and I’m also very happy to read that you’re finding happiness in life after what must have been a tough year. I stumbled upon your blog several years ago, and I’ve been a loyal reader ever since! Best wishes to you!
KathEats says
Thanks!!
Erin says
You only live once, so drink that glass of wine, and another, and another. Heck, drink the entire bottle and then write a blog post! I for one will be very entertained! 🙂
You won’t ever please everyone!!!
KathEats says
Haha I’m on it! (And I’ve done it before 😉 )
Sheri says
I have been reading your blog for YEARS Kath and I just have to say I have seen you evolve that is for sure! You are still young and finding happiness for yourself is so important! You can tell you are truly happy right now. Thank you for sharing with us all the more private details of your life and putting yourself out there..it takes courage to do so! Nothing but great happiness for you and for Mazen! 🙂
KathEats says
Thank you <3
Kelly says
Long time reader here and I follow you on Insta….great post! Very happy for you!
Holly says
Kath, I loved this post. And 100% understand why some of the things you mention are difficult to share with a huge and (often overly) critical internet. But I’m glad you did! Your candor and realness have always been what I like most about your blog. Can’t wait to hear more!
KathEats says
Thank you Holly!
Karin says
I’ve been a reader since 2010 and I’m so happy for you! Life changes, people change and evolve, you’re on a journey and I thank you for sharing it with us. All the best for 2017!
KathEats says
Thanks for reading Karin!
Zoe says
I am really happy for you and don’t stress about changes in how or what you eat – you look great and look healthy
KathEats says
Thank you!
Lindsay says
I’m so happy for you!! It’s like reading a romance novel. You can feel the excitement. I can’t wait to hear all about your adventures.
KathEats says
It feels like a romance novel at times : )
julie says
great post kath. you seem very happy and i’m happy for you!
KathEats says
Thank you Julie 🙂
Erin m. says
I am so incredibly happy for you, Kath!!
Kamila says
Yay! I’m so happy for you Kath!!
KathEats says
Thanks Kamila!
Cyn says
Your happiness and well being shines through in your writing.
It’s great to see and your blog has never been better.
You go girl!
xo
KathEats says
xoxo back!
Lauren says
Loved this post. Thanks for opening up to us and trusting us. He seems like a great guy!! Xo
Caitlinht says
Reader since 2007 and this is one of my favs.
KathEats says
#oldtimer : ) : )
Heather says
Kath- I found your blog while googling oatmeal recipes 6 (or 7!?) years ago. I remember thinking, jeeze this person sure does like oatmeal… ?. But so did I! I guess that’s what hooked me. Oatmeal aside, I think your blog taught me about intuitive eating, something I’m constantly working on but I think you deserve some credit for. ? I work with bloggers now but yours is one of the only ones I read consistently, on my own time. This post was awesome and I am very happy for you!
KathEats says
Thank you Heather!
Jeanie says
I so hope you feel lighter after letting it all out. Thanks for sharing with us. I think you’ve definitely “got it together.” (This is from someone twice your age.) And I’m always covered in dog hair and slobber, too!
Kirby says
Congrats! I am truly happy for you. 10 years of readership here
KathEats says
Amazing! xo
Sara says
I appreciate your honesty. I hear your “voice” in this blog post.
Your message rings true.
Carrie says
Hi Kath. Long-time reader here. I know I’m not saying anything different than all the other commenters but just wanted to chime in too and say how happy I am for you. I have enjoyed reading all these years and hope you continue to blog for many more.
KathEats says
Thank you carrie!
Meghan says
Kath, I really appreciate your approach to eating, working out, and drinking. (This a 2 glass night for me though!) I am so happy for you! This comment is for the thirty-something mom out there with a couple kids and a husband who she isn’t even sure she likes anymore. To her, your life gets sounds amazing right now. I’ve been there. When you and your spouse are building your careers in your late 20s and 30s and have kids, it’s so easy to drift apart. About 8 years (and 2 kids) into my marriage, my husband and I seriously considered going our separate ways. We decided to work on our marriage and we are so glad we did. Seven years later, we are so happy and in love! If you are out there this Friday night, wishing you had what Kath does, know that your marriage can be healthy, fulfilling, and exciting again if BOTH partners are willing to work hard and humble themselves.
KathEats says
I’ve known many who have gone through experiences like yours. May everyone know what’s best for them.
Karen B. says
Well, I think it’s nice to read that you’re “normal”! This post has made you more relatable and endearing, in my opinion. Thank you for opening up.
KathEats says
Thank you!
Liz says
You inspire me to reach for happiness and I am so glad to hear life is so good. Enjoy every minute!!!
Katie @ Live Half Full says
I would love to hear more about your “normal” the good and the “bad”! I think it’s easy to write when you’re working towards balance, but when you’ve found it it’s hard to put it into words. I for one would love to see and learn from you!
So glad you found Thomas- you seem so giddy and it’s awesome!
KathEats says
I’ll work on it!
Laurie McNamara says
Shout it from the rooftops, girl! So happy for you!!
KathEats says
Diane says
Kath, you wrote me back once with the same genuine, real voice I just read here-this is why we all love reading&following You! I can relate so much to this post…met my partner earlier too (college). Though we have spent 25 years together, I was the one who didn’t make the courageous leap of faith to leave when my inner voice said “you gave it your all, time to go fwd”..I had parents who stayed unhappily together and kids always feel that. So happy for You!!! Thomas sounds like a great person! I bet you are radiating your happiness now to Mazen and life seem full of possibilities Again! Thank you for sharing your life with us&keep being perfectly imperfect and covered in dog hair!
KathEats says
Thank you!!
Jo says
Kath, this is YOUR blog. I do not read it to judge you. I am SO happy that you are in love and that a doggie is in your life! I hope some day to say that I eat “normal.” It’s great that you have figured it out for you. In the meantime, I look forward to continuing reading your blog for anything you share that may get me to that point! I enjoy reading about your life with Mazen & whatever you choose to share about Thomas. Be happy!!
KathEats says
Thanks Jo!
Hannah says
Hi Kath,
I’m a long time reader but first time commenter. I have enjoyed watching your blog evolve. And while I have I unsubscribed from many blogs in the time I’ve followed you, your posts about what you eat are welcome honesty that balance the sometimes restrictive or unrealistic clean eating blogs that are around. You eat clean that’s for sure, but with moderation that makes healthy eating look more achievable.
As for your new beau- CONGRATULATIONS! You have done a great job, in my opinion, at introducing us readers subtly to the new chapter of your life. I’m sure I’m not the only person to be delighted for you.
Thanks for wonderful posts; I look forward to them everyday.
KathEats says
Thank you Hannah!
Sadie says
I must confess. Your blogs are always perfection to me. Your life appears the opposite of mine. I look at your blog and thing wow she has it all together. This post makes you feel more human to me. I feel like I can relate to you more. Thank you for putting yourself out there. Thanks for being real. I was happy to see this post and I feel like I know you more from this post than from any others. Although you don’t know me, that’s ok. I am not a creep lol.
KathEats says
Definitely not perfect over here! Just a regular person writing about life 🙂
Heidi says
I think you should change your blog name to “Kath Keeps It Real”!
Mazes is such a babe!! Your a good mama Kath, and a good person who deserves to be happy! Cheers to you girlie!
KathEats says
Haha love it
Coleen says
I have been following your blog for as long as I can remember. My divorce was just finalized two days before Christmas after being together for 12 years. I am still friendly with my ex and we have no kids so it was an easy process. People keep asking me about dating again but for now I’m happy on my own. Seeing you so happy gives me some hope. I wish you all the best.
KathEats says
You have to be happy alone before you’ll be happy with someone else so I think that’s awesome. Enjoy being just you – I did for a while and loved it.
Cindy Childers says
This is so lovely Kath….the post, your heart, your JOY!
KathEats says
Thanks!!
Robin wiergacz says
sounds like you are living life, enjoy!
Laura says
Have to show my love for this post (and your happiness!!) Thank you for keeping it real. I’ve been a reader since the beginning and this is the best post ever Kath. Seriously so happy for you! Thank you for keeping it real.
KathEats says
Thanks Laura!
Dora says
Great blog, Kath. I think, generally, all “normal” people are tired of seeing perfectly portrayed lives that don’t really exist. Studies have shown it can be depressive. I personally try to limit social media (can’t give up Instagram though!), don’t follow any other blog but yours and think that it was a sense of moderation that got me hooked. You have always mentioned leftovers 😉 In my opinion healthy eating is about knowing your ingredients and making smart decisions based on intuition not some precisely calculated formula UNLESS you are a professional athlete, have a health condition or simply love obsessing about those kind of things 🙂 Can’t wait for the partner reveal but love that you are taking it slow. Have an awesome weekend!
KathEats says
Well said!
Rosie says
Congratulations on all of the above! I still love reading you and the other original “healthy living bloggers” (Tina and Anne). The three of you have definitely kept it real over the years so please dont change a thing. Super happy for you finding someone new to share your life with. I wish you nothing but the best.
KathEats says
Thanks!!
Rachel says
I am so happy for you!! Thank you for such an honest, relatable post. I look forward to reading your blog every day and am never disappointed.
Tracy says
Such a happy post!! I’ve read along from day one and this is the happiest I’ve ever seen you. I’m thrilled for you and Mazen and your next stage in life 🙂 Keep being so real with all of us!
KathEats says
🙂
Miss Polkadot says
Kath, I’m afraid to say it’s taken me reading this post to finally comment on your blog again after a long time. [I’m a lazy commenter even on blogs I read on the regular].
All of this was so good to hear. I’m happy you’re in love again because everybody deserves to. Also – I know some people give others the side eye for this – no judgement for starting to date soon-ish after your breakup. If it was right for you, Matt and Mazen that’s all that matters.
About the ‘less healthy’ eating: totally cool with me. In fact, my favourite bloggers are those who have a relaxed attitude about food and life in general. I’d much prefer to read about somebody having fun than live a strictly regimented life. Maybe becoming a mum is what induced that change and relaxation [also about the dog hair ;)] in you? Long story short: I’m happy that you’re happy
KathEats says
Thanks for chiming in!
Candace @vitamincs says
Hi Kath! My sister and I have followed your blog ever since Mazen was born and we have always appreciated your candidness. I think it is what makes you stand out among the crowd. You inspire us both!
Lauren B. says
Congrats on your happiness Kath! And thank you for putting it all out there and sharing with us.
Just one question, and I’m sorry if you’ve already clarified this elsewhere: are you and Matt officially divorced now, or still in the separation phase?
Molly says
Brilliant. Classy. Admirable.
Jennifer says
As a long time lover of your recipes, I rarely comment, but had to add my congratulations. I’m grinning from ear to ear after reading about happy you are with everything at this point in your life. Cheers!
Christina N says
Hey Kath! Thank you for your vulnerability with this post! As someone who is in recovery from an eating disorder and is trying to figure out what ‘normal’ and intuitive eating looks like, I am SO grateful to see examples of that from you recently. You look the most radiant and healthiest than you have ever looked! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Linda says
Hi Kath!
Thanks for sharing your post. I’m in the same boat and in a new city to boot! Without sharing too much you’re not comfortable with, do you have any advice on how you jumped into the dating pool? Dragging my feet and would like a nudge off the ledge 🙂
thanks,
Linda
KathEats says
I had an open mind. I tried the dating apps too which were actually really great. I didn’t have anyone who was trying to meet me in an alley at midnight lol. Most people were really nice and just using technology to look for love. It was a great way to get outside of my regular circles.
Anna Lise Jensen says
Oh, Kath… I love this so much, on so many levels.
My relationship of 8 years ended in 2016, and not to sound like a total creeper, but being able to know that you were going through something similar made me feel so much less alone.
I am so happy for you. I can’t wait to hear more, and more and more! All the best to you, Mazen and your new love!
KathEats says
I felt the same with anyone who would share with me! Hope all is well with you and the complexion business : )
Lolita says
Hi Kath,
Love reading your daily blog and rarely do I post a comment. But this time…. So happy for you!Life’s too short! Enjoy to the fullest!
Sam @ Grapefruit & Granola says
So happy for you, Kath! Everyone deserves to be happy!
Allison says
I’m about 10 years older than you and have read your blog on and off since you and Matt were newlyweds….and I mean this as a compliment. You have really grown up. Best wishes!
KathEats says
Thank you!
Cheryl says
Life takes us to places we don’t plan for. We can’t grow if we aren’t willing to evolve or change with where life is leading us. Stay true to yourself, even it it’s not what you planned for…..or what everyone else expects your life to be. Keep finding the joy in the journey.
KathEats says
Wise words Cheryl!
Jennifer says
This was a great a post! Who would be upset about you being in loooooooove! (Because on the internet that totally has to be answered – Only people whose own issues are projecting!) I’m happy for you! I hope we do get to meet him soon but if not… ah well I imagine it’s hard living your life on the internet! Some things you have to keep to yourself. Or not. Haha. With you either way 🙂
Karen H. says
Oh, happy days! So glad to read of your joy!
Jennifer says
Beautiful! I listened to that podcast the other day; glad you had the courage to share it.
Shauna says
I’ve been reading your blog for years now, and I can at least say for me personally, I’ve kind of made that shift with you! I used to follow countless health bloggers, but for me, eating 100% healthy is no longer my priority or realistic. I used to feel guilt when I’d go to (other) health bloggers’ sites and see their perfectly nutritious foods. I follow a LOT less now, and one of the reasons I’ve never stopped following you is because you’re real! I love seeing your balance of practical and healthy meals. So glad you are happy 🙂 Please don’t stop being you!
KathEats says
Thank you for keepin’ it real right back atcha!
Matt says
I’m glad you’re happy, things are pretty good for me too right now. And Thomas is great!
KathEats says
Awww thanks!!
Joy says
Long time (and I do mean long) reader but first time leaving a comment. Without sounding harsh, I was scrolling through your posts for the past few years but, this year, I feel as though this is the most authentic and real you have ever been. It’s refreshing and interesting. We all have our sh*t and no life is perfect; all we can do is our best. I have a feeling I won’t be scrolling through your posts anymore!
KathEats says
Thank you!
Carly says
I absolutely LOVED reading this. I got divorced a year and a half ago and your life and my life are so similar. It took restarting to just be ME and enjoy my life instead of worrying about the calories, the wine, the nutrition… And I too started dating right away. I met my ex-husband when I was 23. Still a child. I have grown up so so much in the past decade+ and I’m a different person. I met my soul mate a year ago and it’s the most amazing kind of love I could ever imagine. Meeting as adults is SO much different. I always appreciate how real you are. Thank you!
KathEats says
Thank you for sharing! I agree!
Jodea says
This post made me well up! I’m so pleased for you. It can be hard to open up sometimes, but I very seldom regret when I do. I hope you feel the same after this post.
KathEats says
THank you 🙂
Kelli @ Hungry Hobby says
I can not believe I almost missed this post! I am so happy for you! A while ago I was at a conference and we were discussing how much is too much to put on your blog. This is a topic that always concerns me because I’ve had a stalker and the situation ended very badly. Then, someone made a comment about how brave a blogger was for talking about her divorce, I didn’t have to ask to know she meant you. She also said she doesn’t think SHE could ever do that. That’s cool for her, it’s your choice what you put on the internet and what you share. It’s the internets responsibility to move on from what they don’t like or hang out with what they like. Although we know it doesn’t happen like that. My blog has changed SOOOOOO much since I started it four years ago. If there is anything I think you are underestimating it’s your blog followers likelihood to grow and with you. Your personal discussions create connection. I could read any recipe blog, but I would get bored. I read the ones with the most connections.. Your not the only one opening new chapters of your life and maybe your giving someone out there hope they can do the same. Your modeling a realistic style of eating and you eat healthier than 90% of America, I know because I coach clients one on one. If anything you are making healthy eating seem more doable. I hope that was enough of a pep talk! Your doing great!
KathEats says
Great insight! Thank you!
Sandra says
Hi Kath, a reader from your very early days. Thanks for sharing your full story with us all, must be a hard decision with what to share and what to keep private. I too married my high school sweetheart (together since we were 14) and we were married for 26 years. Unfortunately we decided it was no longer working, this was 5 years ago. I remarried in December of last year and have been lucky enough to find another true love the second time around. I wish you all the best, you just don’t know what is around the corner sometimes. xoxo Sandra
KathEats says
So happy to hear your story! xo
Amy says
Kath,thanks so much for the openness and honesty that you share with your readers. I’ve been reading your blog since 2010, and I’ve read older posts as well and have enjoyed following along with your journey. You’ve been classy, open and guarded at the same time, and I mean that in the best possible way. Glad that you and Matt and Mazen are coming out on the other side okay.
KathEats says
Thanks Amy!
Liz says
I haven’t read your email on a very very long time! This is the first random post I opened. I didn’t know you and Matt broke up. But I can see how happy you are now. So I just have to say ‘congratulations’! All the best for all of you!
Colleen says
This is wonderful. I am a bit late after getting back from a weekend of travel but I am SO happy for you!
I commented on a recent post of yours about divorce…I am currently going through it, and am trying to navigate the really awkward (and often times disappointing) dating world. I’m in a similar situation – met my husband when I was very young, and missed out on those “fun, young, single years”. But now that I am older, I feel more jaded in the dating world. I am hesitant to try dating apps so I have been connecting with people mainly through friends or through activities, or just randomly being out and meeting someone. I would be curious to know if you have any pointers for someone like me who hasn’t had to “date” in many years!
But for real…congratulations. So happy to hear you are happy!!!
KathEats says
I had good experiences with the dating apps because you are able to talk to people before meeting them, which helps weed people out based on interests, personality, etc. Best of luck to you!!
Jolene (www.everydayfoodie.ca) says
The best things in life are those that we didn’t plan or expect 🙂 Cheers to you!
Being in love is the absolute best, isn’t it? 😉 I, like you, found the most perfect person possible for me almost five years ago. I didn’t even think someone like him existed. We are more in love today than ever, as it just keeps getting better and better <3 There is nothing like being head over heels!
Bobbie says
I have sensed your hints for some time now, and I think it’s wonderful! You can be a real inspiration to many women (young or old(ish)) who might find themselves unexpectedly single for one reason or another. I hope to never be in your shoes, but honestly, by reading your posts about life going on, I would feel like I wasn’t alone. Thank you for your honesty and I hope you and Thomas are VERY HAPPY together! I would vote to see his face just once, though! 🙂
Sandi says
Love this, girl! One of the reasons I first started loving your blog was that I really felt like you let your readers into your world! Thanks for being transparent and letting us in. You are a delight!
Jenn says
I stopped following your blog a few years ago because it felt a little “preachy” to me and not totally real today someone posted in my FB newsfeed about Great Harvest and it made me think of you and I decided to check in and see what you’ve been up to! I’m so glad I did. This post feels real and honest, and relatable. I’m so sorry to hear about your marriage, but glad you’ve moved forward and are happy and healthy. I’ll be folksinger along now and look forward to reading more about your “normal” healthy eating, motherhood, and love!
adrianna says
GOOD. FOR. YOU! we all deserve to be happy, and the fact you and Matt make it work for your one true love is all that really matters, and now it’s your turn to let more love into your life. 🙂
Poly M says
Yaaaay!! I got a little anxious at tbe beginning of the post, worried what kind of news was coming. Glad to hear things are working out with you and Thomas! I totally understand being hesitant to say too much at first (unless this was a dating-life-details blog, then I’d expect it). Things stay private until the time is right. Best of luck for you two!!
Susan Mc says
Kath, what a lovey post, it made me so happy to read. I haven’t been hanging around as much as I used to and I’ve missed your little corner of the web-o-verse! This post reminded me why I’ve loved KERF for so many years… nice to be back!!
Wishing you all the very best as you continue to move forward!